
So it’s dark and raining and I’m sitting in some motorway services car park at 9pm, I’ve been on the road since 4am and I’ve got 2 hours to go to get home. And I’m thinking “why on earth do you do this? I hate my job”.
But then I think. Don’t be stupid – you’re lucky. You don’t hate your job. You’re just tired and grumpy. It’s a great job, nice car, nice colleagues, nice clients…and an M&S sandwich or Greggs’ pie on a motorway! (Other sandwiches and pies are available). But I do then start get to thinking “why do people work to the point of such tiredness and frustration and how could it feel better?”
The vast majority of us have to work. For some the choice of what we can do is limited. Maybe we don’t want to be in that office or supermarket, factory or call centre. Maybe we want to be getting home and out of the workplace as quickly as possible. But others seem able to go the extra mile so why are they different? What makes people do the extra hours, offer the extra services or take on other responsibilities? Several reasons I think:
- Obviously we get paid for work but sometimes the added value contributed by employees or those in high producing companies might mean we get paid for contributing or producing more.
- Socially and psychologically it’s recognised that for most of us, (not all admittedly), work is central to our lives although to get the most from our jobs the role must be fulfilling. So we know people will support their organisation and work harder if they help create what they do rather than being told what to do. Success in and appreciation for the role we carry out tends to mean happiness in the job.
- Any fans of McGregor’s X and Y theory will recall that theory X employees are typically lazy and avoid work and responsibility where they can. They inherently dislike work and need to be heavily controlled and supervised. Theory Y employees have a greater sense of accomplishment and are ambitious, self-motivated and exercise self-control. However imagine if you are a theory Y employee working for a theory X boss who rules with fear and control – maybe that’s why it’s a challenge for some people in those situations.
- Also many people want responsibility in some form. They will go to work and work harder if they are trusted, given responsibility and have access to opportunities to learn at whatever level. You don’t have to run the company to take responsibility.
But despite all that for many of us work seems a chore, something to get through, something to moan about and so how can I stay motivated when I hate my job? Well being paid a salary or even a living wage, offers a means to pay our bills, working with others helps some to escape a tough home life or loneliness, and work is still seen as respectable! But beyond that we can also help ourselves by admitting what is at the root of the problem. For me, when I feel I ‘hate my job’ I’m really saying I don’t feel very good at it, I can’t seem to deliver what’s expected, I’m tired or I’m fed up or scared of failing. So to combat that I have to think differently I guess. Do I really hate my job or do I need to make changes, behave differently, set new goals? Should I set myself targets that mean I can celebrate small wins, set myself achievable goals instead of impossible ones and yes, continually re-learn how to be better at my job. I am not defined by my job so I should stop the self-pity and try to improve instead. Seeking out courses, events, mentors, networking, and trying to develop new skills will allow me to see what my clients or users of my service really want. I’ve taken to realising that one small problem doesn’t have to ruin every part of my day. A walk, a chat, a laugh and if all fails realise that the job is paying the bills. Someone telling me I’ve done well makes a world of difference too. Mind you I’m often told I’d be even more impossible or go crazy without work so who knows!
So let’s say you work in the NHS – our main clients/partners, and you’re struggling, or life feels tough. We read the NHS is in crisis, in terminal decline, there is inherent system failure, it’s a miserable environment – its election battle ground time again. How are you supposed to feel positive in that environment?
Well one way is to embrace the opportunity and remember why we go into some jobs in the first place. Caring for the public is a privilege. I’ve been there in the NHS and it’s true. The job can be an awful lot of fun – that’s my memory. Usually others in the system are as dedicated and compassionate as you and often a great laugh too. Mostly despite the challenges faced the NHS staff enjoy what they do. And our best moments in whatever job we do are usually the shared ones. For me, the sense of success, winning bids, getting a successful deal over the line or clearly adding value works. For others sometimes, perhaps as my doctor and teacher daughters tell me, it’s the camaraderie, the team support, the ‘we’re in it together’. Conversely our worst times are when we face challenges alone. Sitting in a motorway service car park in darkness after driving for 12 hours for an hour long difficult meeting isn’t great. But instead of moaning, I should realise that I’m lucky to be doing a job I enjoy, contributing in some small way to the success of our NHS partners and my own company , building a business and learning what to do differently – like realising I could just have caught the **** train.






